16) FANNING SLOWLY:"I am married." 17) FANNING QUICKLY:"I am engaged."
Jeez, so if you're single, you can't fan yourself at all? Or is there some medium speed? /*That's a stupid idea*/
As I've never had a girlfriend or even been on a date, everything below should be taken with a proverbial grain of salt. /*But I think I know what I'm talking about anyway, otherwise I wouldn't say it.*/
The only part of romantic relationships that really bothered me was the exclusivity. There are at least hundreds of people in the world who would be perfectly good life partners for me (and many more if I wasn't such a weirdo) so why do I have to pick one and pretend to not be interested in all the rest? Don't they deserve my attention too? /*What could possibly be wrong with showing people how much you appreciate them?*/ If this restriction didn't exist, most of the need for these sneaky signals would be gone. If you were interested in someone, you could say so without fear.
The answer, at least partially, is human jealousy. Human beings want to be loved, but that's not all. They want to be special. This sounds awful when I say it like that, but hey, it's natural, so I don't blame people for it. I may not like the system, but I accept it.
It is a tough system. I keep wanting to say to everyone, though, "You'll be given love." /*For example, I love you. I have a hunch that we aren't particularly compatible, and I'd like to keep my options open and my independence, but I love you just the same, and I'm sure a bunch of other people do to, so please don't worry about that.*/
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Date: 2005-08-09 10:52 pm (UTC)17) FANNING QUICKLY:"I am engaged."
Jeez, so if you're single, you can't fan yourself at all? Or is there some medium speed? /*That's a stupid idea*/
As I've never had a girlfriend or even been on a date, everything below should be taken with a proverbial grain of salt. /*But I think I know what I'm talking about anyway, otherwise I wouldn't say it.*/
The only part of romantic relationships that really bothered me was the exclusivity. There are at least hundreds of people in the world who would be perfectly good life partners for me (and many more if I wasn't such a weirdo) so why do I have to pick one and pretend to not be interested in all the rest? Don't they deserve my attention too? /*What could possibly be wrong with showing people how much you appreciate them?*/ If this restriction didn't exist, most of the need for these sneaky signals would be gone. If you were interested in someone, you could say so without fear.
The answer, at least partially, is human jealousy. Human beings want to be loved, but that's not all. They want to be special. This sounds awful when I say it like that, but hey, it's natural, so I don't blame people for it. I may not like the system, but I accept it.
It is a tough system. I keep wanting to say to everyone, though, "You'll be given love." /*For example, I love you. I have a hunch that we aren't particularly compatible, and I'd like to keep my options open and my independence, but I love you just the same, and I'm sure a bunch of other people do to, so please don't worry about that.*/