Maybe if you're single you fan really really fast. It could be like a continuum -- the faster you're fanning, the less attached you are.
I hadn't, on reading the fan list, read into it that one big goal was sneaking around and carrying on multiple relationships /* because I'm blatantly preoccupied with my own situation, in which I only wish that were my problem */ -- I guess when I think of things people are worried about saying I think more of the fear of rejection, fear of messing up a good thing in pursuit of what might or might not be an even better thing, fear of hurting someone (and then later realizing that dodging the truth just makes things worse on both sides), whatever. But yeah, re-reading with that spin I can see where that's in the subtext and another place for spawning secrets. /* People are just too damn complicated, aaargh! */
Jealousy/exclusivity -- it doesn't sound all that awful, it's just the way people tend to work, right? That sort of innate competitiveness, the longing for first best most -- definitely very tightly tangled with passion, so it's makes perfect sense that it comes into love. Which is not to say that jealousy isn't an ugly painful thing, but like you said, it's natural.
That's a really pretty song. /* And a really, really nice thing to hear, what with my perpetual maze of dumb insecurities. Thank you. */
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I hadn't, on reading the fan list, read into it that one big goal was sneaking around and carrying on multiple relationships /* because I'm blatantly preoccupied with my own situation, in which I only wish that were my problem */ -- I guess when I think of things people are worried about saying I think more of the fear of rejection, fear of messing up a good thing in pursuit of what might or might not be an even better thing, fear of hurting someone (and then later realizing that dodging the truth just makes things worse on both sides), whatever. But yeah, re-reading with that spin I can see where that's in the subtext and another place for spawning secrets. /* People are just too damn complicated, aaargh! */
Jealousy/exclusivity -- it doesn't sound all that awful, it's just the way people tend to work, right? That sort of innate competitiveness, the longing for first best most -- definitely very tightly tangled with passion, so it's makes perfect sense that it comes into love. Which is not to say that jealousy isn't an ugly painful thing, but like you said, it's natural.
That's a really pretty song. /* And a really, really nice thing to hear, what with my perpetual maze of dumb insecurities. Thank you. */